Positivepsychology iconPositivepsychologyAug 19, 2026 ~1 min source read

What Is Self-Compassion? A Guide to Being Kinder to Yourself

For many of us, self-talk can be swift and harsh: "Careless, not good enough, should have known better." The inner critic can get loud. The self-compassion gap is where we treat others differently than ourselves.

What Is Self-Compassion? A Guide to Being Kinder to Yourself

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For many of us, self-talk can be swift and harsh: "Careless, not good enough, should have known better." The inner critic can get loud.

The self-compassion gap is where we treat others differently than ourselves.

Self-compassion is often used interchangeably with self-esteem and self-love, but it is something more specific, more learnable, and more grounded in research.

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For many of us, self-talk can be swift and harsh: "Careless, not good enough, should have known better." The inner critic can get loud. The self-compassion gap is where we treat others differently than ourselves. Self-compassion is often used interchangeably with self-esteem and self-love, but it is something more specific, more learnable, and more grounded in research.

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You know, the kind that keeps replaying in your head. Now think about your response if a friend made the same mistake. You would likely be more understanding, patient, and gentler.

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