Uxdesign iconUxdesignAug 31, 2026 ~1 min source read

You can’t grow roses in a cornfield

I asked it on a mentoring call in the way you would ask about notice periods or portfolio order, one practical item among several, and the designer on my screen began to cry. We sat with it for a moment, the way you do when a video call suddenly contains something real, and when she tried to answer, the answer had very little to do with jobs.

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I asked it on a mentoring call in the way you would ask about notice periods or portfolio order, one practical item among several, and the designer on my screen began to cry.

We sat with it for a moment, the way you do when a video call suddenly contains something real, and when she tried to answer, the answer had very little to do with jobs.

Long before people can say out loud that the work no longer fits, she told me, they hear it as a whisper: a quiet, dismissible sense that this is not what they want.

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I asked it on a mentoring call in the way you would ask about notice periods or portfolio order, one practical item among several, and the designer on my screen began to cry. We sat with it for a moment, the way you do when a video call suddenly contains something real, and when she tried to answer, the answer had very little to do with jobs. Long before people can say out loud that the work no longer fits, she told me, they hear it as a whisper: a quiet, dismissible sense that this is not what they want.

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  • Left unanswered it does not fade but grows, until one day it has become a daily shout, and a person finds herself crying on an ordinary mentoring call without quite knowing how she got there.
  • Whitney Hess I have been interviewing designers who left the craft, or reshaped it into something new, for a book I am slowly writing about what is hap...

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