# Background and origin In 1976 four women — E.M. Broner, Phyllis Chesler, Letty Cottin Pogrebin, and Gloria Steinem — met in Manhattan for a seder that explicitly linked the women of the Exodus story to the struggle for women's equality. The ritual they began endured for more than twenty years and inspired many other feminist seders.
# How the seder spread and was sustained
# A small anecdote that mattered: the cake and wine duty
# Leadership, advice, and ritual changes In 1988 the seder introduced a night led by "the daughters" — either the participants' actual daughters or younger women chosen as spiritual daughters. At that seder Steinem offered concise counsel that became part of the group's ethos: trust the wisdom of everybody, avoid hierarchy, trust your own wisdom, and follow your joy. She later described what she learned about being mothered by daughters.
# New plagues for a modern seder Like many seders, the feminist seder added to the traditional ten plagues. Steinem proposed several additions that mixed political critique with personal vulnerability. Examples she contributed included a call to stop "killing each other with our words," a critique of losing one's center by placing it in others, a lament about discontinuous history, and a critique of books that promote abusive dynamics. In 1995 she listed a plague that was personal: nerve pain.
# Roles and symbolic standing Participants regarded the founders as "mothers" of the seder. At the 1995 gathering Broner listed guests as blessings and singled out Steinem as "our Moses for decades," using biblical language to name her guiding presence. That language reflects how the group combined feminist reinterpretation with traditional ritual frames.
# Themes that reappear in Steinem's contributions Several recurring themes show up in Steinem's remarks at the seder: valuing shared wisdom across generations, resisting rigid hierarchies, acknowledging personal limits (especially around anger and center), and reimagining biblical women's stories (for example, discussions about Ruth and Naomi or imagining Deborah saying no). These themes guided how the ritual evolved and how participants taught one another.
# What the seder meant to participants E.M. Broner described the group as a tribe — a circle that met, bonded, planned, and argued together. For attendees the seder was more than ceremony: it was a sustained practice that combined political commitment, spiritual exploration, and personal counsel over decades.