Latterdaysaintmag iconLatterdaysaintmagSep 11, 2026 ~1 min source read

Your Hardest Family Question: How Long Do I Stay in My Marriage?

Can a marriage become dead, or is it simply my pride and fear of putting my all into the marriage once again to make it work? My husband started changing about three weeks ago (just a few days shy of seeing our marriage counselor alone once), and has been involved a bit more with the kids.

Your Hardest Family Question: How Long Do I Stay in My Marriage?

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Can a marriage become dead, or is it simply my pride and fear of putting my all into the marriage once again to make it work?

My husband started changing about three weeks ago (just a few days shy of seeing our marriage counselor alone once), and has been involved a bit more with the kids.

I feel like my options of staying or going are like choosing fleas or lice.

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Can a marriage become dead, or is it simply my pride and fear of putting my all into the marriage once again to make it work? My husband started changing about three weeks ago (just a few days shy of seeing our marriage counselor alone once), and has been involved a bit more with the kids. I feel like my options of staying or going are like choosing fleas or lice.

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  • I saw my mother self-sacrifice in her marriage, which left her unable to have healthy emotional attachments with her children.

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I don't want to get divorced and become another welfare statistic. Being close to him physically or emotionally makes me cringe. She stayed with my dad although she knew he was abusing his own children.

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