Fighting to Win vs. Fighting to Understand
You stop hearing what your partner is saying and start building your response. You're gathering evidence, lining up your points, waiting for them to take a breath so you can make your case.
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You stop hearing what your partner is saying and start building your response.
You're gathering evidence, lining up your points, waiting for them to take a breath so you can make your case.
The painful math of a marriage is this: if one of you wins, the relationship loses.
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The useful part
You stop hearing what your partner is saying and start building your response. You're gathering evidence, lining up your points, waiting for them to take a breath so you can make your case. The painful math of a marriage is this: if one of you wins, the relationship loses.
What to take from it
Because in most couples' worst arguments, both people are fighting to win.
Details worth keeping
Somewhere in the middle of the argument, something shifts. Two lawyers, no judge, and a verdict neither of you will ever accept. You've had it a hundred times, about a hundred different things.
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