What NOT to Do During a Divorce (Ontario Edition)

# Divorce (Ontario Edition)

Divorce is stressful and decisions made in the heat of the moment can have long-term consequences. This brief summarizes specific actions to avoid during a separation in Ontario, so you can protect your legal position, finances, and relationships with children.

Finances and records

Do not hide assets, income, or property. Complete and honest financial disclosure is required in family law matters. Attempts to conceal money, investments, business information, or property undermine credibility and may bring legal consequences.

Do not delete or destroy financial records. Bank statements, tax returns, investment records, and business documents may become evidence. Preserve these files and produce them when required.

Do not make major financial moves without advice. Selling property, transferring assets, taking on large debt, changing investments, or making sizable purchases can complicate a separation. Talk to a lawyer or financial adviser before making changes that could affect division of property or support calculations.

Children and parenting

Do not use children as messengers or leverage. Asking children to pass messages, take sides, gather information, or choose between parents places emotional pressure on them and can damage co-parenting.

Communicate about parenting arrangements directly between adults whenever possible, and keep conversations focused on schedules, safety, and practical needs.

Communication and social media

Do not respond impulsively to your spouse. Angry texts and emails can escalate conflict and may be used in court. Pause before replying and keep messages factual and respectful.

Do not post about your divorce, children, finances, new relationships, or disputes on social media. Posts taken out of context can become evidence and complicate negotiations or proceedings.

Legal process and disclosure

Do not refuse reasonable financial disclosure. Withholding documents delays resolution and can trigger court intervention. Transparency about assets and income helps both parties see the financial picture.

Organization and timing

Do not wait to gather documents and get informed. Early organization of records, understanding your financial situation, and getting professional advice gives you options and reduces rushed decisions.

There is no single correct way through divorce, but avoiding these common mistakes makes the process more manageable. Preserving records, communicating calmly, following legal requirements, and getting informed advice will better protect your finances and relationships during and after separation.

Upcoming resource

The author offers a free webinar titled "What NOT to Do During a Divorce (Ontario Edition)" on September 29 at 5 PM ET for further practical guidance.